by momykids
momykids.com – When given the choice, would like to have a boy or girl, must be more who answered wanted a boy. From man’s side, has sons will make it feel a whole has become a man, macho, assured his manhood. Once again, men will only “feel”, so this opinion can not be proven scientifically.
Another reason women choose a boy or a girl. Most women hoping to bear a daughter, because he wanted to dress them all out. Then, when he get older, there are girls who want to take care. While the desire for male babies are generally based on the desire to not get the risk as excessive spending for knick-knacks, to risk pregnant out of wedlock.
The urge to get the girls probably also originated from your relationship with your mother. Perhaps you have a great connection with the mother, and wanted the same bonding experience with your own daughter. But it can also vice versa, you do not have a good relationship with your mother, so longed for a chance to fix it with your own daughter.
Beauty of the relationship of mother and son
According to psychotherapist Dr. Nancy B. Irwin, healthy parenting involves a desire to raise a child, regardless of gender. “Just because you have never become a man, does not mean you can not raise boys are great,” he said.
What should parents do when a child is to nurture him to be the most fun. Later, he would fill another vacancy in accordance with the personality, environmental, and social learning. Women also do not have to worry about the special relationship between mother and son, like the Oedipus myth, says Debbie Mandel, MA, author of Turn On Your Inner Light: Fitness for Body, Mind and Soul.
“It is an opportunity to shape a child into a sensitive man, kind, and communicative,” suggested Mandel.
But, indeed, there are things that may not be aware when you have boys. Some of them are:
1. Baby boys tend to be more easily cleaned when changing diapers. “Most first-time mothers who have boys afraid they would hurt her baby, when they tried to wash the pieces of cloth attached to the penis baby,” said Adie Goldberg, a clinical social worker and author of It’s a Baby Boy!. How clean is easy. Just lift her hood, then wash the head of his penis.
2. The boy has confidence physically. The boy will grow into a healthy child, because he will play games that require motor skills ballpark, such as running, playing ball, fighting over the swing, even a fight. Even if the pitcher is more prominent their fine motor skills, such as painting, dancing, or make a poem, he remains confident child with her body.
“Although most of the major achievements, such as walking, tended to be obtained at the same time (between girls and boys), gross motor ability of boys will grow rapidly during the preschool. They will also begin to beat the girls in terms of physical ability , “added Kimberly Parker, a nurse and clinical program manager at the Child Health Promotion, Early Childhood Wellness, Children’s Healthcare of Atlanta.
3. They are more motivated to explore their world. A noisy house will feel more alive, and be a sign of a healthy relationship antarkeluarga. Boys will always expressive speech, shouting, or laughing, with a loud voice. There are times when you feel like a ship broken homes, but calm. This is because the pitcher is exploring the objects around them.
“From the beginning, mostly young males move more than girls,” said Goldberg. “And they need more space to do so. This will not change even though he has grown, and she’ll feel very comfortable exploring her world, which disturb your comfort zone.”
4. They have a more powerful emotion. When it comes to behavior, boys in the age of toddlers will demonstrate a variety of surprises. “Generally, girls are believed to be more emotional than boys. But the boys are very young tend to have stronger emotions,” says Parker. “They are more easily agitated, and difficult to recover.”
Even so, when he was growing boys will be more difficult to express his feelings. Therefore, parents are often more difficult to calm their emotions, or find out what was disturbing her son. “Boys do not just talk slower than girls, their vocabulary is more limited,” added Parker.
5. Boys will protect. Although they are difficult to express his feelings through words, they are smarter expressed his affection for both parents and his brothers later. His love for you will be so great, especially because he does not compete with the mother as well as girls. You will not criticize the boys because of the style of dresses that are too sexy, and therefore he still views the mother as a perfect figure. He also will do anything to protect you.
Parker reminded the parents about some facts related to the differences in boys and girls. Each can have a unique personality than their same sex, especially when compared with children of different sexes.
However, according to Parker, we also need to understand that boys and girls “programmed” differently from birth, and biological differences will be magnified by social and environmental change. Personally appreciate every child and provide opportunities for physical development and emotional needs met, is the best thing we can do to ensure the development of a healthy and happy.
Source: Babies Today