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momykids.com – As part of the innate nature of humanity, Islam has never suppress desire sexual. Islam offers a comprehensive guide for sex can still be enjoyed a Muslim without having to lose the rhythm of worship. Month of Shawwal, for Muslims of indonesia, can be regarded as the breeding season. This assumption is certainly not without reason. Among students and muhibbin usually indeed chose the moon as a time to establish aqad marriage.
habits could not be separated from the advice of the scholars who come from Sayyidatina expression Aisha bint Abu Bakr who married King Prophet in Syawwal. He commented, Lo wedding in the month Syawwal was full of blessing and contains much good. However, to achieve true happiness in the household of course not enough to get married in the month Syawwal. There are many things that need carefully studied and diamalkan by married couples to achieve tranquility (sakinah), love (mawaddah) and compassion (mercy), both born and the internal. One of them, and the most important is the question intercourse or in the language of jurisprudence called Jima. As one objective the implementation of marriage, intimate relationships according to Islam including one of religious worship that is highly recommended and contains a value a very large reward. Because Jima in the bond of marriage is a lawful way provided by God to vent his passion and the human biological connecting the children of Adam’s descendants. In addition, the lawful Jima is also a rewarding iabadah big. Rasulullah SAW said, the dick that is charity. Companions ago asked, O Messenger of Allah, whether we get rewarded with intercourse our wives?. The Prophet replied, not if you channel the passions in unlawful street would sin? And vice versa, if channeled in a halal way, you will be rewarding. (Narrated by Bukhari, Abu Dawood and Ibn Khuzaimah)
Because the noble aims and it is worth worship each sex in households should aim and be the Islamic way, which is in accordance with guidance of the Quran and the sunna Prophet Muhammad. Intimate relationships, according to Ibn Qayyim al-Jawzi in Ath-Nabawi Thibbun (Ala Medicine of the Prophet), in accordance with the instructions Messenger has three objectives: maintain a descendant and continuation of mankind, remove the fluid when languishing in the body would be dangerous, and achieve God bestowed pleasure.
Salaf Ulema teach, Someone should keep three things in themselves: Do not let not walk away, so if one day have to do it. it is not difficult; Do not get no food, so the gut is not narrowed, and not to leave the sex, because of water wells only when not in use will dry himself. His face was grim Muhammad ibn Zakariya adds, He that is not intercourse in a long time, will weaken the power of his body organs, nerves will veins will stiffen and clog. I also see people are deliberately not doing Jima with the intention of celibacy, his body became cold and his face grim. Meanwhile, among the benefits of intercourse in marriage, according to Ibn Qayyim, is subdued eyes and hearts of the sanctity of self and unlawful acts. J ima also beneficial to the psychological health of the perpetrator, through the incomparable pleasure it produces. The peak of pleasure is called orgasm or intercourse faragh. Although not all sex must lead faragh, but the optimal effort achieving a fair faragh obligatory. The definition of fair faragj is the orgasm can be felt by both parties, namely the husband and wife. Why mandatory? Because faragh together is one element important in achieving the purpose of marriage that is sakinah, mawaddah and mercy. Dissatisfaction with one of the parties in Jima, if left berlarutlarut, madharat fear it would bring a larger, namely infidelity. Thus, in accordance with basic principles of Islam, wa la la dharara dhirar (Not dangerous and harmful), any attempt to prevent things jeopardize the legitimate marriage is also obligatory.
However, the satisfaction that must be pursued in Jima is the satisfaction within the limits of human reasonableness, custom and religion. Not justified using the pretext of reaching satisfaction to perform sex practices deviant, such as sodomy (liwath) that is medically proven dangerous. Or use of force in sexual activity (mashokisme) both physically and mentally, the latter often happens. So, according to with the rules of usul fiqh wajibu illa ma la yatimmul bihi fahuwa wajibun (Something that became mandatory requirement for perfection case, the ruling also mandatory), recognize and learn the elements that can deliver Jima to faragh also obligatory. For men, the achievement of faragh very clear sign that when Jima has reached phase or out of the seminal ejaculate. Not so with the weaker sex that most late-type heat, or even not easy to heat. To that required a variety of strategies to hasten. And, one of the most important element of the strategy is achieving faragh preliminary or heating in a foreign language is called foreplay (Isti Adah). Heating fairly and accurately, according to experts sexology, will accelerate women reach faragh. Since it is considered very important, warm up before berjima also ordered Prophet Muhammad. He said, Don’t one of you intercourse with his wife like an animal. He must first give introduction, namely kisses and sweet talk cooed. (Narrated by At-Tirmidhi). Kissing in the above hadith of course in the true meaning. In fact, Prophet Muhammad, narrated in Sunan Abu Dawud, kissing lips Ayesha and suck her tongue. Two of these hadith as well put your kiss between husband and wife as a sunnah before jima. When J Abir married a widow, the Prophet asked him, Why have you not Marrying a girl so you can jolly jokes? which can bite each other’s lips with you. HR. Bukhari (number 5079) and Muslim (II: 1087).
Mouth Odor Therefore, couples should be very concerned about all the elements the perfect kiss phase. Either by mastering techniques and tricks good kissing, as well as hygiene and health of body organs that will used kissing. Because it can be, rather than raise the temperature Jima, bad breath which are not fresh, it will reduce the spirit and desire a partner. While seduction mentioned above are all words that can be attract a partner, adding intimacy and stimulate passion of jima. In terms of jurisprudence sentences that stimulate seduction called rafats, which of course forbidden spoken to other than his wife. In addition to kissing and seduction, another important element in the heating is touch intimate. For married couples, all parts of the body is a lawful object to be touched, including the genitals. Especially if intended as encouragement Jima. Similarly, Ibn Taymiyya’s opinion. Nashirudin Shaykh Al-Albani, quoting words of Ibn al-Hanbali in Urwah that still shaped his book manuscript, Al-Kawakbu Ad-Durari, Permissible for husband and wife to see and feel all the curves partner, including the genitals. Because the genitalia are part of the body which may be enjoyed in making out, of course may also be seen and touched.
Taken from the view of Imam Malik and other scholars. Thanks to the greatness of God, every part of the human body has a sensitivity and different flavor when touched or looked at. So, to add quality Jima, husband and wife allowed to also take off all her clothes. From Aisha RA, he was told, I never take a bath together with the Prophet in one vessel (Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim).
To obtain optimal results touch, should be husband and wife know very well the points easy to excite couples respectively. It needs an open and relaxed communication between married couples, to find those points, in order to generate maximum effect when jima. Permissible for husband and wife who were berjima to sigh. Because sigh is part of the increase arousal. Imam As-Suyuti narrated, there was a qadhi that intercourse with his wife. Suddenly his wife flicker and sigh. The qadhi was rebuked. But when the next qadhi the day came to his wife he would say, Do as yesterday. One more thing that adds pleasure in the intimate relationship of husband and wife, namely the position of intercourse. Incidentally Islam gives large freedom the adherents to try different variations of the position in sex. The only provision is subject to Shari’a, all sex positions that remain to be done in one way, which fanny. Not the other. Allah says, Your wives are a farm for farming, Go to it from any direction you want. QS. Al-Baqarah (2:223).
Position Ijba
According to commentators, this verse was revealed in connection with the incident in Medina. Once when some women of Medina who was married to the muhajirin complained to the Prophet Muhammad, because their husbands want to do sex in the position or tajbiyah ijba. Ijba is a sex position where he came from the direction of female vulva rear. At issue, the women had never heard of Medina Jewish women say, anyone who jima with ijba way then his future will squint. Then came a verse. In connection with verse 233 Surah Al-Baqarah was Imam Nawawi explains, Paragraph The show allowed to fuck her from the front or rear, by the way override or bertelungkup. The fuck through the anus is not Allowed, because it’s not the location of cultivation. Farm in question is bred. Muhammad Syamsul Haqqil Azhim Abadi in bud Aunul Ma added, Keyword field (hartsun) referred to in the Qur’an shows, women may was clocked in any way: lying down, standing or sitting, and overlooking or back .. Thus, Islam, as religion rahmatan lil alamin, again proved has a fully equipped teaching and thorough in guiding his flock the ocean of life. All sides and the potential life of peeled completed and given detailed guidance, so his people could remain to Syaria while undergoing humanitarian nature.
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